Most of us would consider connection – especially with our families to be one of our core values. We want to have meaningful relationships. We want to feel connected with our partner and kids. We want them to share with us. We want them to get along with each other and to create strong bonds.
But life can get busy and there are so many things to do; places to run, and everybody has their own interests and activities. Often unless we are intentionally creating space for connection it can fall through the cracks.
We see each other all the time but are we actually creating space for learning more about what they are thinking, what’s on their minds, their interests, and fears?
A couple years, we started implementing monthly kid dates. My husband and I set aside one day a month to have one on one time with each of the kids.
We take one kid in the morning and then we swap after a few hours. We will usually grab some food and do an activity – one the kids choose or that we choose for them.
The impact this makes on our households is huge. Having that time intentionally connecting with them helps fill their cups. They get along better with each other. They are more cooperative; they don’t feel like they are having to vie for attention.
It also makes an impact on us. Having that time apart to slow down and just experience some joy with each of them allows us all to decompress a little. We’re happier, more centered, and grounded.
How about you? Do you make time for intentional connection? Are there people in your life that could use some one-on-one time?
Trying to figure out how to incorporate more connection with your kids in your own unique circumstances? Maybe you have more or fewer kids – maybe once a month is too much or not enough. Perhaps 10-15mins of intentional daily connection at mealtime or before bed – where you put down devices and interact would feel better.
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